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The Ultimate Guide to Bondage: Creating Intimacy through the Art of Restraint (Paperback)

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Whether you are looking for an introduction to bondage or seeking new heights of erotic delights, The Ultimate Guide to Bondage is the perfect addition to your bookshelf!

Are you curious about bondage but nervous about where to start? Bondage doesn’t have to be all about whips and chains- it can be a mindfulness activity, a wonderful way to express creativity, and an intimacy generator in the bedroom! Explore the exciting world of bondage, the variety of types that exist, and most importantly- how we use them to connect with our loved ones.

Mistress Couple skillfully breaks down the world of bondage into ten distinct realms, including Japanese rope bondage, costume bondage, psychological bondage, self-bondage and more. Each of the realms includes a lesson with historical and practical applications, first-hand accounts, and even DIY tutorials, making this the perfect primer for beginners and a well of inspiration for experienced bondage practitioners.

About the Author

Mistress Couple is the head mistress of La Domaine Esemar, the world's oldest BDSM training chateau, where she hosts and educates bondage practitioners from all over the globe. Best known for her psychological approach to BDSM, Mistress Couple has been interviewed as an authority in the field by media outlets including Cosmopolitan, VICE, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, and Racked. To learn more about her, please visit

Praise For…

"I thoroughly enjoyed The Ultimate Guide to Bondage, being a deviant pervert (latex fetishist and clothing enthusiast) I particularly loved the exploration of costume bondage, attractive mummification suggestions and the latex sucky bed. In addition using "real" people as models, which is so refreshing, I appreciated the insight into Mistress Couple’s journey into the SM realm and the section of erotic essays revealing both sides of bondage. For the geek there is lots of interesting factual information and history. A must read for anyone with an interest in bondage." —The Baroness, Latex Designer and Evangelist

— The Baroness

“This exceptional resource goes well beyond the expected and delves into a wide range of bondage types (balloon encasement, anyone?) from both practical and philosophical perspectives in a most thoughtful way. It inspires deeper thinking about bondage—and deeper thinking leads to better bondage scenes!” —Evie Vane, author of Better Bondage for Every Body and The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up

— Evie Vane

"Going beyond technique, Mistress Couple provides a grounded introduction to bondage and restraint that has depth. If you want to explore this erotic practice, and care about the meaning of it, the "why" of bondage and not just the "how", this book is a strong foundation to start that exploration." --Dr. Richard Sprott, developmental psychologist, co-author of Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities

— Dr. Richard Sprott

"It's interesting, it's educational, it's erotic and it's fun — coming from an expert who has truly lived the lifestyle on the top an bottom.” —Joanna Angel, award-winning adult film star and director, and best-selling author of Night Shift: A Choose-Your-Own Erotic Fantasy

— Joanna Angel

“Far too few modern books on BDSM confront the much needed emphasis on Safety before diving into a deep exploration of the topic the way The Ultimate Guide to Bondageby Mistress Couple does so beautifully. But what really brought this book home for me was the care and time that Mistress Couple placed at the end of the book with short stories to reflect top-notch games at their finest. Standing ovation.” —Master Arcane of The Crow Academy, author of Igniting The Fire: The Art of Romantic Submission

— Master Arcane

"I have never read a bondage book more wide-ranging and yet so thorough at the same time. No matter what piques your interest about bondage, Mistress Couple has surely included it here. I highly recommend this to anyone with an interest in the art of restraint — experienced or not!" —Evie Lupine, peer kink educator and YouTuber

— Evie Lupine

“This hefty tome is truly the Ultimate Guide to the “B” in BDSM. Mistress Couple has something for every type of reader. Now I look forward to the guides for the D’s, S’s, and M’s.” —Dr. Lanae St.John, professor of human sexuality, founder of The MamaSutra

— Dr. Lanae St. John

"Rarely have I read anything quite so satisfying. And excellent collection and highly recommended." --Kitty Kat's Book Review Blog

— Kitty Kat's Book Review Blog

"I can think of no better person from whom to learn about the art of erotic bondage than Mistress Couple. Her love of the art is palpable and contagious, and her approach to kink is so sexy and loving. I'd definitely let her tie me up!" —Karley Sciortino, creator of Viceland's Slutever

— Karley Sciortino

"The Ultimate Guide to Bondage goes beyond the how-to techniques and takes the reader on a journey through understanding consent, desire, risk, and connection. This is the perfect book for the curious new explorer and will help the advanced adventurer dive deeper into a variety of physical and psychological nuances related to erotic restraint." --Lee Harrington, author of Shibari You Can Use and Sacred Kink

— Lee Harrington

"Honestly, this is the book that I wish I'd had when I first got started in kink... It's an excellent primer for beginning bondage enthusiasts, and unlike any other bondage book that I've encountered before." --Mistress Holly GoLightly

— Mistress Holly GoLightly

"The Ultimate Guide to Bondage is exquisitely written, from nose to tail. With Mistress Couple’s writing style, it is easy to be right there with her. The Ultimate Guide to Bondage is comprehensive for those personally and professionally interested in bondage. This book could easily be used in an academic course." --Dr. Rosara Torrisi, LCSW, MEd, CST, PhD, Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy

— Dr. Rosara Torrisi

"Even if you don’t want to do all the kinky stuff outlined in the book, at least you’ll read about the weird shit other people do and what you might want to do. Anyone for getting stuffed into a gigantic balloon and then having it popped?" --Anka Radakovich, AVN

— Anka Radakovich
Product Details
ISBN: 9781627782746
ISBN-10: 1627782745
Publisher: Cleis Press
Publication Date: December 11th, 2018
Pages: 310
Language: English